Why I do (and don’t) believe in Soul Mates

Q: Do you believe in soul mates?

A:  A lot of different beliefs are braided into the idea of a soul mate.  In order to believe in soul mates, as in there is only one perfect person out there for everyone, there has to be a belief in destiny. For soul mates to truly happen, there has to be a bigger plan than just wandering around on the earth for the sake of wandering around. There also needs to be an entity or force in charge of creating two perfectly compatible people. Following this logic, it is also required for a specific purpose or reason for these two people to be together in the first place, otherwise the planning involved in creating a soul mate would simply be a micro-management of people. Last but not least, with all the planning involved there would need to be a plan of how these two people would meet. Why create one soul in two bodies if they’re never going to have a chance to meet? It would be pointless. I believe in soul mates on the grounds that there is an entity far superior to my being, who has prepared and planned not only a perfect mate for me, a time for me to meet them, and a reason for coming together. Without all these elements, having a soul mate would be pointless and therefore a moot point.

As a Christian my faith gives a foundation for all criteria to be met. I believe God has a plan for this earth and I am somehow involved in this plan (albeit in a small way) and He has taken the time to see His plan carried out. This may or may not allow for me to find a soul mate, His plan might involve me being single the rest of my life, in which case I am my own soul mate I suppose. If however His plan involves me meeting someone, this person will meet me at the right time for us to come together and carry out His purpose on this earth.

While some who read this will disagree with my Christian background, I want to point out the question was directed to my personal belief, and Christianity is not on trial here, my views on soul mates is. Loved how challenging this question was, please keep the questions coming!



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5 responses to “Why I do (and don’t) believe in Soul Mates

  1. Aric

    Can you defend this biblically? I realize Christianity is not on trial here, but Christianity is what informs your world-view and also your view of destiny and free will. To be destined for something would imply that it could not have been any other way. How can you be sure that God does not provide multiple opportunities after a succession of missed opportunities? And how would you respond to the mystical connotation that being a soul mate means literally having the other half of a person’s soul, to be united for eternity?

  2. Aric great questions. As for the biblical defense I’d be happy to give you an email for it if you’d like, for the actual blog entry I was sticking to a brief explanation of my personal christian beliefs. As for destiny and free will, that is a whole big can of worms and would be a great question to submit on my questions page (and if you ask for it, many biblical defenses will be in that post). I would never want to say that God could not provide multiple opportunities or just one, more so just trying to get the point across of a soul mate being someone you would meet, and not a hopeless situation of having a soul mate but never getting the chance to meet them. Last but not least, my expression of one soul two bodies was meant to be more of a synonym for soul mate, not to be taken as literally. I’ll try to be more clear in the future.

  3. Kolebee

    So, if you believe in soul-mates, but your soul-mate doesn’t, are you still perfectly compatible?

  4. I don’t subscribe to the commonly understood definition of a soul mate because it creates an unrealistic expectation that the person you should be with will be perfect for you. The problem is our understand of perfection is much different than God’s, who likens a constructive relationship to iron sharpening iron. The real danger comes if we get in a relationship with someone or God-forbid, a marriage, and decide this person must not be perfect for me when things get tough and sparks do start flying. I believe a biblical soul mate is not a specific individual from our perspective (though certainly from God’s), but the person we commit to be together and grow with for the rest of our lives, no matter what.

  5. Wenis

    Hmm… given the “soul mate” God found for Hosea, perhaps it is safer if one stays single. (You know, in case He is planning to make a point.)

    If I get struck by lightening on my way home tonight, you’ll know why.